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Friendship - such a fragile ship at times...

Lately, a friendship my good friend and I have shared with another friend has gone down the drain :( We threesome have known one another since our secondary school days.

After leaving school, one of us went on to poly; another went on to another poly then private school; this friend stayed on for another year in school, then later to private tertiary upgrade. Then, my good friend got hitched at age 21; she's the earliest one to get married among us three. Years later, I also got married.

We threesome used to meet up on one another's birthdays and occasions like CNY or X'mas or ad-hoc gatherings. However, this friend suddenly gave us the virtual cold shoulder i.e. never reply via email about updating or meeting up. I have thought that she was busy. This friend of ours can be quite 'inconsistent' at times; my good friend and I felt weird about it but have got used to this aspect of her.

However, this time, the verdict is really bad! One day, she sms-ed us that her hp no. would be changed soon and would update us her new no. by a certain date. I thought it was one of those mass informed smses. So, I waited... and waited... past the said date... Still no update? So, I sms-ed back to ask for update. Still no reply =(

My good friend and I were puzzled by her behaviour. She called her up. Apparently, the feel my good friend got was that she was trying to avoid her. Her mom said she was "not at home". I tried calling her a few times but can't reach her as well -> "not at home"

So, since she lives so near me, I purposefully dropped by to visit. She was there! Cordial but somewhat distanced as we talked. I brought up the subject of her avoidance. She, not surprisingly, denied so. I updated that our good friend is pregnant! She expressed pleasant surprise and asked about how our good friend was adjusting. Hmm... We talked about other stuff and at some points, it sounded just like old times when we chatted.

The following night, both my good friend and I received a nasty sms from her. In her sms, she said she was sick of us and told us (me) not to suddenly appear at her place. I remember though, that she wrote about wanting to be left alone "for the time being". It was near Christmas then.

So we did. We were upset that she refuse to tell us what went wrong. Was it something we have done or said? Let us know! At least we know how to improve! It's a friendship of 18 years! How can we let go of it so easily?

We did not dare to venture in yet... During the CNY period, I dropped a card at her place. Meant to insert it in her mailbox but alas! it was locked! No choice got to hand deliver up. The door was opened but it was too great a risk for me to turn up 'unsolicitated' again - if you know what I mean! I knew it was not exactly nice but I have no choice but to leave the card at the doorstep...

So, that was it. Neither of us have hear any news from her. Sometimes, as I have told my good friend, I wish I could bump into her mother while doing marketing near her block and find out what's with her...